Comments on: Random Answers http://www.feld.com/wp/archives/2006/09/random-answers.html Mon, 13 Feb 2012 20:16:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dave Jilk http://www.feld.com/wp/archives/2006/09/random-answers.html/comment-page-1#comment-3601 Dave Jilk Sun, 03 Sep 2006 17:30:30 +0000 http://www.feld.com/wp/?p=1267#comment-3601 There are really two separate issues here: whether you care, and whether you have an opinion. Thus an easier approach that is not disingenuous is what I'd call "virtual caring." Imagine a Clockwork Orange-like scenario where you're forced to look at that chandelier or paint color until you lose consciousness with your eyes open. I promise you, you will have an opinion. Then you can proceed with expressing that opinion using Golden Retriever eyes. A further benefit is that this allows you to be empathetic with your S.O., who undoubtedly cares as strongly as you would if you were forced to look at it 24 hours a day. There are really two separate issues here: whether you care, and whether you have an opinion. Thus an easier approach that is not disingenuous is what I’d call “virtual caring.” Imagine a Clockwork Orange-like scenario where you’re forced to look at that chandelier or paint color until you lose consciousness with your eyes open. I promise you, you will have an opinion. Then you can proceed with expressing that opinion using Golden Retriever eyes.

A further benefit is that this allows you to be empathetic with your S.O., who undoubtedly cares as strongly as you would if you were forced to look at it 24 hours a day.

]]> By: darth87 http://www.feld.com/wp/archives/2006/09/random-answers.html/comment-page-1#comment-3600 darth87 Sun, 03 Sep 2006 10:21:44 +0000 http://www.feld.com/wp/?p=1267#comment-3600 Brad, In the interest of preserving healthy marriages, I provide the following rationalization: Raj was wrong, you did not lie. At the USAFA, lying was defined as "providing or withholding information with the intent to deceive." Perhaps "random answers" deceives Amy regarding your opinions, however, "random answers" serve a higher purpose: affirming your relationship in the wake of diverging interest levels. Best regards, darth87 Brad,

In the interest of preserving healthy marriages, I provide the following rationalization: Raj was wrong, you did not lie.

At the USAFA, lying was defined as “providing or withholding information with the intent to deceive.”

Perhaps “random answers” deceives Amy regarding your opinions, however, “random answers” serve a higher purpose: affirming your relationship in the wake of diverging interest levels.

Best regards,
darth87

]]> By: Osman http://www.feld.com/wp/archives/2006/09/random-answers.html/comment-page-1#comment-3599 Osman Sun, 03 Sep 2006 07:30:10 +0000 http://www.feld.com/wp/?p=1267#comment-3599 Ok, screw the biz strategy. THIS is the kind of advice I can use. Why didn't I think of this before? Thanks Brad! Ok, screw the biz strategy. THIS is the kind of advice I can use.

Why didn’t I think of this before?

Thanks Brad!

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