Happy 21st Anniversary @abatchelor

Lots of people get married on the summer solstice. To all of them – including those getting married today – congrats and welcome to the club!

It’s a particularly sweet club on your 21st anniversary if you are a numerophile, which is a word that Amy and I just made up that describes people who love numbers. And blackjack. And Dragons. And Daenerys – what a serious badass she is. And Arya also. But I digress. Can you tell that we recently figured out how to watch the Game of Thrones season finale up in Homer?

21 years ago Amy and I woke up and decided to get married. We were on vacation in Alaska, hanging out in Fairbanks at the time. Amy grew up there so she loved to point out all the things that were completely unchanged since she was a child. We took her mom and her nephew Drew out for Drew’s birthday breakfast at Sourdough Sam’s, which was one of those unchanged places. Her mom asked what we were doing that day and we turned to each other and said “getting married.”

Yup – we eloped.

We went to the Pay-N-Save and bought six rings for $1.19 (we still have them). We then drove up to the top of Ester Dome. I took out a piece of paper and wrote the word “VOWS” on it twice. I tore the paper in half and gave half of it to Amy so we each had vows to exchange. We each grabbed one of the rings. Amy recited the traditional marriage ceremony. We exchanged VOWS and rings, hugged, and kissed.  And that was it.

It feels like yesterday. Well, not really. But it’s been amazing. We’ve had our ups and downs, including nearly getting divorced (which I recount at the beginning of our book Startup Life: Surviving and Thriving in a Relationship with an Entrepreneur (I know you see what I did there, Brad-the-book-salesman.)  We moved from Boston to Boulder in 1995 and never looked back. We thought briefly about moving to Homer, Alaska but decided instead to buy a house up here and spend a month each summer up here.

As I sit on the couch in our house in Homer, two feet away from the person I love spending time with more than anyone else on this planet, I feel so lucky that I’ve found someone to spend my life with who understands me. Who puts up with me. Who treasures me. Who holds me when I’m down. Who celebrates with me, but also keeps me humble and chases all the bullshit out of my life. Who is my biggest fan and staunchest defender. Who is always there for me no matter what.

And – who I feel exactly the same way about. Amy – you are awesome. Thank you for being you. And for putting up with me.

  • http://www.startupmanagement.org/ William Mougayar

    Nice story! Congrats, and to many more years of happiness and good health.

    • http://www.feld.com bfeld

      Thanks William!

  • http://is.linkedin.com/in/balakamallakharan Bala

    Congratulations Brad and Amy, glad to have gotten to know you both beautiful people

    • http://www.feld.com bfeld

      Back at ya @BalaInIceland:disqus. Sending you and Augusta hugs.

  • http://www.pointsandfigures.com/ pointsnfigures

    Congrats. Life is so sweet when you marry your best friend. Keep some champagne chilled in the fridge at all times. Churchill said in victory you deserve it, in defeat you need it.

    • http://www.feld.com bfeld

      Well – Amy is allergic to champagne, but sparkling apple cider – or scotch – is a good substitute. Thx for the sentiments!

  • Jana

    A very beautiful love story,I almost cried, I especially love those palm trees in Alaska. I’ve been married 20 years to the man who puts up with a crazy person that chases ideas! I’ve even tricked him into building proto-types. LOL, a garage full of my insanity. Congratulations!

  • http://www.alearningaday.com Rohan

    Happy anniversary Brad and Amy! :)

  • http://sotirov.com/ Emil Sotirov

    That thing – that strange union with that one person… is the most amazing thing. I’m lucky to have that thing too with my wife. Nothing else matters more. Wish you both the best!

    • http://www.feld.com bfeld

      Thx – so wonderful and so powerful.

  • MJ

    You’re a cool dude. The last paragraph sums it up. I forwarded this one to my gf. Congrats.

    • http://www.feld.com bfeld

      I thank her every day for putting up with me.

  • Cecelia Feld

    Is 51 the new 21? That’s my best friend and me. 51 years of livin’ and lovin’. Congratulations! May the next 31 be as awesome as the first 21.

    • http://www.feld.com bfeld

      Y’all are our role models.

  • StevenHB

    Mazel tov!

  • http://www.betterpointment.com/ Rich Weisberger

    Hmm, 1983 Homer Alaska sure does look like Ft. Lauderdale :) I see a lot of Respect, Patience, Persistence and Attention to Detail when you describe your marriage. It must have been scribbled on the back of that piece of paper. Celebrate!

    • http://www.feld.com bfeld


  • http://www.traipsingabout.com/ Dakota Gale

    Great story. The image of tearing a piece of paper in half to exchange vows is perfect. Everything to be said in vows is contained in our daily actions anyway! We eloped during a trip to Kauai and wrote ours with crayons in a coffee shop…ha. Here’s to another 21 years and beyond for you two. Cheers!

    • http://www.feld.com bfeld

      Crayons FTW! Love it.

  • Gennady Shenker

    Wow! What a romantic story, Brad! Congratulations and all the best for another 70+!

    • http://www.feld.com bfeld

      Thx. Whenever some other guy says “I’m the luckiest guy in the world” I think to myself “Nope, you are the second luckiest guy in the world…”