Happy Anniversary Amy

Amy and I have been married for 18 years. On the summer solstice in 1993 we went to the top of Ester Dome in Fairbanks, Alaska and exchanged vows. Earlier that day we went to Pay ‘n Save and bought our wedding rings (I think we got six for $1.99). I wrote the word “vows” on a piece of paper twice, tore it in half, and gave one of the vows to Amy to give to me when we got to the top. We never had a formal wedding because we never wanted one, although we did visit the Boulder County Courthouse on June 21, 1996, paid our $20, assured them that we weren’t brother and sister, and made it official. But we count years from that date on top of Ester Dome in 1993.

I can’t image having a better life partner. Like all couples, we’ve had our ups and downs, although the only real downs that I remember are the ones that catalyzed me into action to change my behavior. The list of amazing things Amy has brought into my life is extraordinarily long, but the greatest is the joy that I get from spending time with her, learning from her, and just being myself around her.

The journey through life on this planet is a complicated one. Many years ago I decided that I had no idea when the lights were going to go out so I was determined to live every single moment as fully as I could. As I get older, I want to spend more and more of these moments with Amy. We’re going to be together every day for the rest of this summer – and I’m ecstatic!

Amy – you are the most awesome person I’ve known. Thanks for choosing me.

  • Congratulations to Amy; and you as well.  I have been hitched for 24. I am lucky to have my wife.

    • Thanks and congrats on 24 years!

  • Rosalie [@Rosalieinc]

    Happy Anniversary Amy & Brad! Love that you got 6 wedding rings for $1.99…what a deal! : )

  • Halley

    Lovely! Happy Anniversary and many more.

  • congrats Brad.

    love your dedication to your partner.

  • Roy Kaller

    Happy Anniversary Brad!

    After 31 years (married for 28) I cling to the belief that Deb as invested so much time in me that she simply doesn’t want to start training someone new.  She says that she just doesn’t want to date again…

    Those who have a life partner who helps them be kinder, smarter and healthier are truly fortunate.

    Congratulations to both you and Amy!

    • Thanks – and I agree – fortunately Amy doesn’t think of it as a sunk cost!

  • Congratulations to both of you!

  • Happy anniversary to you! 

  • Wow – I didn’t really know other people still felt like that.  So great to see people who are still inspired by each other, rather than settling for each other.  Thanks for inspiring me today!

  • Anonymous

    Happy Anniversary.  What wonderful sentiments and thoughts.  Wishing you many more wonderful years together.

  • Congrats you two!

  • JohnBMtl

    Exactly as you say, it doesn’t just happen. You have to work on it.

    And, just like when you’re driving on a well worn highway, when you feel that the wheels are stuck a little too much in the groove, you have to give a little nudge on the steering wheel to keep things interesting.

    Congratulations to the two of you !

    John & Denise ( 26 years and going strong ! )

  • Gkot

    This is so beautiful! Congratulations!

  • Awesome! Wish you many more happy years together! I am only on year 7 and it is already a life changing ride! 

  • When two individuals build a partnership based on interdependence, their love is indissoluble and invigorating. This is the vow that withstands the test of time and shapes the years ahead. Congratulations Brad!

  • Great post.  Lura and I just celebrated our 20th two weeks ago.  As you get older different things become important.   Sometimes you get nudged into figuring that out, sometime you just figure it out.  Congratulations to both of you!

  • Brad, you’re one of the few people in Startup Land that talks about family/marriage. 

    As someone who is 29 and in my second year of marriage; it’s really encouraging to see someone a few years ahead in life with a successful marriage. Many times, the stories of successful careers and successful marriages are mutually exclusive.

    So congrats on y’alls 18th and keep writing about personal stuff — for all the young marrieds who are doing startups.

    • Thanks! Amy and I have started writing our book “A Startup Marriage”
      – hopefully you’ll enjoy it when it comes out.