Friend Hierarchy

Now that I use 267 different social networking tools, I’m confused.  I’ve got so many different "friends", but I don’t know how to differentiate between them.

My "friend" Dave Nolastnamesogoogledoesntindexme recently asked me if I have seen any moves toward private hierarchies of relationships.  Specifically he (and I) want to categorize my "friends" into a hierarchy that I get to create.  One example set might be (lover, buddy, friend, acquaintances, met once, jackass, enemy).  This "friend set" should be user customizable and private.

My head starts to hurt when I think about this across Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, Linkedin, Plaxo, Outlook, Gmail, Bebo, Dogster, Shelfari, …)  What a mess.

While I’d love a consolidation layer across all my social network (e.g. I want "one Dave Nolastnamesogoogledoesntindexme object"), I know I’m not going to get that anytime soon.  So – I’ll just settle for being able to create my own special unique proprietary private "friend hierarchy" within each social network tool.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/mattgalligan mattgalligan

    http://socialthing.com (forgot to include what "our solution" was)

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/mattgalligan mattgalligan

    http://socialthing.com (forgot to include what “our solution” was)

  • Matt Galligan

    I know your pain for sure. I feel it every single day. I've got friends on MySpace that are just as important as some of my friends on Facebook and LinkedIn, but hardly use MySpace because those friends are the only reason I go there…and it's hard to get to them quickly, unless you add them as a “Top Friend”.

    I suppose that's why we built the exact thing you're talking about into socialthing!. When the feature gets released (seeing how our first feature, Lifestream, goes into private beta today)…it will consolidate all of your friends across all of your social networks (that we support currently) into one list. Then, you can take that list and categorize your friends by either explicit or implicit definition.

    Explicit meaning you specifically say “Foundry Group co-workers” and then drag all of your co-workers into that group. Implicit being when you define certain criteria, like “LinkedIn and Plaxo friends” (essentially defining a work related group)…

    It is a mess…so I guess that's why we really want to clean it up…hopefully our solution helps you out!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/mattgalligan mattgalligan

      Right which is also why I should say (for your readers sake) that “our solution” is socialthing!, one of the companies that was in last year's TechStars program.

    • Matt Galligan

      completely forgot to add what “our solution” even is…for your readers that is…

      http://socialthing.com

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/micah105 micah105

    I think this would fit perfectly with my concept of a friend finder/content discovery tool. http://learntoduck.com/business/the-year-of-disco

  • http://learntoduck.com micah

    I think this would fit perfectly with my concept of a friend finder/content discovery tool. http://learntoduck.com/business/the-year-of-disco

  • http://robjohnson.tumblr.com Rob

    I think this is what Facebook is hoping to accomplish with their friend lists. Of course the lists are that useful now (you can only create them) but I suspect they'll group more functionality around these lists, especially privacy, soon.

    • http://www.coloradostartups.com David G. Cohen

      I think the idea that any one walled garden social network can solve this is retarded. There will never be a day where I use one tool on the web. I own my social network. I'll define it. If you want to impress me, then your service needs to use mine, not make me tell it to you again. So, the building block that is missing here is a generic way of defining your social connections which is open to consumers. I know people are working on this, but it doesn't make it not “missing in action” still. There will be a day.

      • http://learntoduck.com micah

        I absolutely agree. There has to be a stand alone application that allows for content discovery, relationship recommendations and social search. I dont think its solely an aggregator like ST or FriendFeed. Or any current social platform or search engine. (although google is going to take a shot at it with SocialStream.)

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/indiekid indiekid

    I know your pain for sure. I feel it every single day. I've got friends on MySpace that are just as important as some of my friends on Facebook and LinkedIn, but hardly use MySpace because those friends are the only reason I go there…and it's hard to get to them quickly, unless you add them as a "Top Friend".

    I suppose that's why we built the exact thing you're talking about into socialthing!. When the feature gets released (seeing how our first feature, Lifestream, goes into private beta today)…it will consolidate all of your friends across all of your social networks (that we support currently) into one list. Then, you can take that list and categorize your friends by either explicit or implicit definition.

    Explicit meaning you specifically say "Foundry Group co-workers" and then drag all of your co-workers into that group. Implicit being when you define certain criteria, like "LinkedIn and Plaxo friends" (essentially defining a work related group)…

    It is a mess…so I guess that's why we really want to clean it up…hopefully our solution helps you out!

    • http://intensedebate.com/people/mattgalligan mattgalligan

      Right which is also why I should say (for your readers sake) that "our solution" is socialthing!, one of the companies that was in last year's TechStars program.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/dgcohen dgcohen

    I think the idea that any one walled garden social network can solve this is retarded. There will never be a day where I use one tool on the web. I own my social network. I'll define it. If you want to impress me, then your service needs to use mine, not make me tell it to you again. So, the building block that is missing here is a generic way of defining your social connections which is open to consumers. I know people are working on this, but it doesn't make it not "missing in action" still. There will be a day.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/rnjohnson rnjohnson

    I think this is what Facebook is hoping to accomplish with their friend lists. Of course the lists are that useful now (you can only create them) but I suspect they'll group more functionality around these lists, especially privacy, soon.

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/indiekid indiekid

    completely forgot to add what "our solution" even is…for your readers that is…

    http://socialthing.com

  • http://intensedebate.com/people/micah105 micah105

    I absolutely agree. There has to be a stand alone application that allows for content discovery, relationship recommendations and social search. I dont think its solely an aggregator like ST or FriendFeed. Or any current social platform or search engine. (although google is going to take a shot at it with SocialStream.)