How To Take Care of Your Introvert

I wrote a post this summer titled CEOs That Are IntrovertsWhile I’m very comfortable in group settings and have no problem in front of a crowd, I’d much prefer to be alone, with Amy, or with one other person or couple.  Some of my best friends are introverts – and one of them sent me this magnificent article from The Atlantic Monthly by Jonathan Rauch titled “Caring for Your Introvert.”  The next time you are with me, please feel free to pop open your laptop and sit quietly doing something near me while I work on my computer – I’ll enjoy it a lot (and – depending on whether or not you are an introvert – you might also!)

  • DJ also sent this to me…Rauch got thousands of emails after that article firts appeared. From what I hear it’s caused a revolution among introvert groups…It’s good stuff.

  • mel

    Thanks for that – makes me feel better about a hen do I went to earlier in the year. Coped with 12 other lovely ladies from Friday morning till Sunday lunch, then had to apologise and leave to go mooching around Edinburgh on my own. It was nothing to do with the quality of the company I was in (which was excellent) just the sheer quantity. Cheers

  • Nice find, Brad. The most challenging part of spending time with others is sometimes the “protocol negotiation” to see if it’s okay to just quietly co-exist in the same space for a while.

    Eric “INTP” Lunt

  • This is a great post but I think the author makes a false dichotomy between being an introvert and not being able to handle the spotlight. I am an introvert CEO but I’ve done a ton of public speaking and public relations on behalf of public companies. When I’m speaking on stage, it almost feels like I’m by myself in a weird way (particularly if the crowd is huge). And doing PR interviews is so structured that it isn’t like you’re socializing, you’re just answering questions about something you know really well (your company and your product).

  • I always find it interesting how many of us introverted extroverts reconcile our inner focused selves with our outer focused selves.

    Some people have called me a walking contradiction – good presenter, highly motivated public speaker, good networker, and introverted deep thinker.

    My fellow introverted extroverts please introduce yourself to me at the next conference/unconference or workshop, I know you’ll understand when our “great” conversation trails off into awkward silence while we listen to our ipods, write notes to self and blog via handhelds, answer calls, and peruse spreadsheets on our laptops while smiling sheepishly trying to reconcile our perpetual inner dialogues with our outer conversations.